List of the most popular hashtags for theme #BABYLOSS

I just wanted to let all of you know that you are amazing, strong, BEAUTIFUL, and loved. Keep your head up pretties. It gets better. #miscarriagematters #miscarriageawareness #miscarriage #miscarriagesupport #babyloss #1in4 #notjustastatistic #morethanjustaloss

☀️Happy 2nd birthday Sundance James ☀️. . Oh sweet, perfect, beautiful boy, I hope you know how very loved and missed you are today and everyday. The weight of your absence is felt daily, but days like today are even harder to get through without you. I wish you were here running around with your siblings, wearing cowboy boots celebrating. I hope you and River are celebrating and loving on each other, wherever you are ❤️ What I wouldn’t give to get to snuggle and kiss you one more time. I carried you for every moment of your life, and I will love you for every moment of mine! . I’ve never shared this photo before. I have very few of Sundance. Look at that teeny tiny nose and that crease on his chin . . #infantloss #babyloss #twinmom #twins #23weeks3days #23weeker #lossmom #lifeafterloss #nicu #chocnicu #infantlossawareness #infantloss #sundance #james

. . . I wrote this down a few months ago in response to a journal question. It seems fitting to rewrite it out now, in the hope that this will be the last Mothers day with empty arms. Sending love and strength to all those out there who long to be mothers, or who are unable to hold their angel babies. #weareallmums #survivingmothersday #mothersday #emptyarms #infertility #fertility #fertilitystruggles #fertilityjourney #miscarriage #multiplemiscarriage #recurrentmiscarriage #pregnancyloss #babyloss #ttc #ttccommunity #ttcsupport #ttccommunitysupport #ttcjourney #ttcsisters #ttcafterloss #ttcaftermiscarriage #ivf #ivfjourney #ivf2019 #ivfsisters #ivfsupport #ivfcommunity #waiting #miscarriageawareness #miscarriagesupport

Unfortunately this is often true #harrysbutterfly #ectopicpregnancy #pregnancyandinfantloss #pregnancyloss #miscarriage #babyloss #infantloss

No matter how you’ve lost them, losing a baby sucks. It really does. . Here’s what else has the potential to suck after losing a baby. . 1. Baby shower invites. . 2. Social media. . 3. Playgrounds. . 4. Small talk. . 5. Commercials for pregnancy tests. . 6. Crying in the grocery store. . 7. Crying at work. . 8. Crying in your car. . 9. All the crying. . 10. When friends text you. . 11. When friends don’t text you. . 12. Anxiety. . 13. Hearing babies cry. . 14. Hearing babies laugh. . 15. Leaving the house. . 16. Holidays. . 17. Putting on “real” clothes. . 18. When people say the wrong thing. . 19. When people say nothing. . 20. When people say the right thing but it upsets you anyway. . 21. The baby department. . 22. Doctor’s offices. . 23. Pregnant women. . 24. Pretending to be happy for pregnant women. . 25. Feeling guilty about not being able to be happy for pregnant women. . 26. When people ask how many kids you have. . 27. When people assume you don’t want kids because you don’t have any. . 28. Being a little bit sad even when you’re really happy. . 29. Never really knowing what is going to upset you. . 30. Getting your period. . 31. The nightmares of what happened. . 32. The daydreams of what could have been. . 33. Sex. . 34. Looking at yourself in the mirror. . 35. Feeling unsure of where you fit in. . 36. Visiting your baby’s headstone. . 37. Storing your baby’s ashes. . 38. Not having a headstone or ashes. . 39. When you start to become accustomed to the heartache. . 40. Spending your time reading lists like this. . And the list goes on... . #pregnancyandinfantloss #pregnancyloss #infantloss #babyloss #childloss #miscarriage #stillbirth #1in4 #1in160 #grief #griefsucks

WHAT’S IN A NAME • “Isabelle, Arthur, time to go home...” the words that stopped me dead in my tracks this afternoon • The words that upon hearing them, I didn’t want to look, I didn’t want to turn around & see the little boy that shared the name • It got me thinking about names • From the moment we knew we were expecting a boy, Arthur was always going to be Arthur • It has become an immensely popular name & I’m sure when Emme starts school in September there will be other Arthur’s there • Just recently I’ve wondered how this may play out. What would I do if they become friends? What happens if she wants to have him round for tea or play dates? How would I feel having a different Arthur in our house, when mine is missing? • I caught myself scanning the names on the coat hooks a few weeks ago, desperately searching to see if there was an Arthur attending the preschool already • I’ve realised that with many things in life after loss, this can’t be controlled • There is no way to prepare for when it may happen, there is no way to stop yourself being blindsided in that heart stopping moment you hear or see your missing child’s name • Names are special and personal to us but they are not unique. There is no monopoly on names. There is no way of protecting yourself from others that have the same name • All you can do is breath and know that that child is so very lucky to share the name • Names may not be unique, but people are. Arthur is more than his name. Arthur is missing, he always will be, no amount of other Arthur’s in the world would change that simple fact • If you’re reading this and you feel the same, then please know you are not alone. It’s ok to feel sad upon hearing your missing child’s name, it’s okay to feel caught of guard & if I’m being totally honest it’s okay to feel a slight twang of jealousy, to wonder why there child is here but yours isn’t... • But please also know that although your child’s name isn’t unique, your child is • They are yours & you are theirs, for always • The loss is great, but the love is greater • Words written for Arthur in my very first letter, that now appear on his headstone • Words that will be true for eternity❤️

38 weeks and 5 days since I saw your beautiful face, held your delicate body, tried my hardest to memorize every inch of you in the short time we had. The most beautiful baby I had ever seen- perfect in every way. You filled me with so much pride. I couldn’t believe I had made such a beautiful baby. I was so proud of my body for bringing you into the world. It was the day I had waited for, for 38 weeks and 5 days. I had worried about it so much. I had worried about whether I’d be able to endure the pain. I didn’t know the true pain was that you would be born still and silent. I was worried I wouldn’t be a good enough mother to you. I never thought that my motherhood would take such a different turn. I couldn’t have imagined that raising you would become a matter of raising awareness for what happened to you and speaking your name as much as possible so that you are never forgotten. 38 weeks and 5 days you and I were one body and now 38 weeks and 5 days without you I feel there is a piece of me that is missing- an emptiness that will never be filled. But we are forever one heart. My heart holds you when my arms cannot. With every beat, it speaks your name and tells you how much I love you. How strange the passage of time can be - it feels like you were with me for all my life and yet that I have been without you for for a lifetime. 38 weeks and 5 days.

‍♀️I wish I have held you longer. . . To continue my last post, I have other regrets too. I didn’t hold tight Áron long enough. I know nothing would have been enough ⏳ . .
I didn’t know what our options are. Don’t get me wrong, the last thing I want to do is to blame the hospital. Everyone was super nice and understanding. But it’s a situation what you can not be prepared for, you are basically in a dark place, where you can not think clearly. It’s painful physically mentally and spiritually. . . I remember laying there in the hospital room, surrounding with midwives and nurses, doctors. Áron was born. What a contradiction. Being born and be dead at the same time. The brain can not understand this immediately if ever. They said “what a beautiful boy” and “you did really well”. Before giving birth I didn’t even want to hold him. But than at that moment, I asked my husband to tell them I have changed my mind. I am glad, I did. But still. Was not enough. Everyone left the room, we got as much time as we wanted to say goodbye. But we didn’t spend much time with him at all. And today I am asking myself, why not longer? Why not dress him? The truth is I just gave birth, laying there, being weak (I remember I found him heavy) I just couldn’t. In a way I just wanted to get out of that place. Get out of my body. Get out of my life. . #selftherapy #selftherapista #guilt #angelmommy #angelbaby #pregnancyloss #rainbowbaby #angel #mommy #mummy #drawing #draw #doodle #bnw #instaart #illustration #babyloss #stillbirth #stillbirthawareness #stillbornstillloved #lifeafterchildloss #togetherforever #babylossawareness

Mrs O is right. You really don’t realise how little you know about baby loss until you’re in the thick of it. And then you’re left trying to put yourself back together again without much frame of reference - what helps? What do other people do? Well, a little while ago I asked this question in a post on here. And I’ve put all the amazing, brave, honest and sometimes darkly funny answers I got into a massive new blog post - 75 ways to feel better after baby loss, up on my blog now. (Link is in my bio) From the big stuff like therapy to the small-but-still significant like boxset recommendations, I think there will be something in there for everyone - and if you have just lost of baby, whatever your circumstances, I really, really hope it helps. There are no easy answers, and if nothing else I hope the piece shows that there is no one right way to cope or grieve. And you are so far from alone. . P.S Do feel free to share this post, I’d love it to reach as many people as possible. And please add your own suggestions in the comments if you’d like - maybe we can get the list up to 100...? ❤️