List of the most popular hashtags for theme #GOODENOUGH

Take the reminder you might need today. Happy Saturday, my sweet friends. So glad you're here.✨

I am all about Woo-Woo. I love my tarot cards, I love looking for signs, and I love synchronicity. I fully believe in the magic of being human on this floating rock in space. Here’s the thing, though: We've gotta meet the universe half way. If we leave our lives up to the universe, we won’t move forward. If we wait for the universe to tell us what to do, we won’t move forward. If we wait for the universe to give us what we need, we won’t move forward. If we leave everything up to the universe, we won’t move forward. If we assume the universe will take care of it all for us, we won’t move forward. If we give our dreams, hopes, and growth over to the universe, we won’t move forward. I say this with the most love in the world: Don’t leave your well-being up to the universe. It isn’t the universe’s responsibility — it’s yours. ✌

Boundaries are guidelines to live by that allow us to fully show up in our lives from a place of integrity. They are the lines we draw in regards to what is and isn’t okay with us. They are ongoing limits we set for ourselves in order to create a container of safety. But boundaries are not just about what we say or how we phrase it. Boundaries are not just about what it looks like to set and maintain them. Boundaries are also *energetic experiences* that allow you to feel more connected to yourself and others. When thinking about boundaries, we also have to think about how we *feel* about setting boundaries, what happens in our bodies when we set or don’t set them, the story we tell ourselves about boundaries, and the honoring of them. There is an internal process inherently woven into boundaries, but we often forget to pay attention to this piece. Some questions to explore the internal process of boundary-setting: What arises in your body when you imagine setting boundaries? What sensations are there? What story do you tell yourself about setting more clear, firm boundaries for yourself? How were boundaries modeled (or not modeled) for you growing up? Are there fears or worries that arise when setting boundaries? What parts of you might those be related to? How does it feel when you witness other people set clear boundaries? What do you experience when you avoid getting clear around your boundaries? When does it feel easiest to live by your boundaries? What about hardest? What comes to mind when you hear the word boundaries? Until we explore the internal process of boundaries, setting them with the people in our lives might feel even more challenging. Understanding the role boundaries play in our lives and how we are impacted by them can bring us clarity and self-compassion as we navigate how we want to explore our boundaries moving forward. And, as always, exploring these themes with someone you trust is often incredibly helpful and supportive. Happy Thursday, friends. Take good care. For more on boundaries, check out the incredible work of @silvykhoucasian and the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud. Any other resources you'd like to share? Do so below!! ✨

Related to questions I got on my last post asking for alternative things to say when someone is feeling something tough, here are just a few ideas. As you can see, it doesn't have to be complicated to be supportive and to show you really care. It also doesn't have to eliminate or fix the feeling. I'd love to hear what feels good to *you* when you're having a harder time - what phrases have felt most supportive and nourishing? PS. You can also say these to yourself.✨

Just for one moment, take this into consideration. Could that be the actual truth?!? I can only connect the dots looking back and I can with certainty tell you, that this was the case for every relationship I didn’t feel “good enough” for. Repost via @thesinglewoman Don’t be so quick to internalize someone’s inability to get you or love you or handle you. You’re not for everyone, and that’s okay. The truth is, your spirit and your heart and your soul are just too big for some people to hold...and all you can do is let them go. ✌ • • • • #mandyhale #thesinglewoman #youareenough #goodenough #enough #overqualified #letgo #lettinggo #letthemgo #rejection #spirit #itsnotaboutyou #loveyourself #selflove #selfworth #boybye #thankunext #thatpart #byebyebye #byefelipe #byefelicia #iamenough #monday #mondaymotivation #happymonday #mood #mondaymood #mondayvibes #SoulWanderlust

Don’t be so quick to internalize someone’s inability to get you or love you or handle you. You’re not for everyone, and that’s okay. The truth is, your spirit and your heart and your soul are just too big for some people to hold...and all you can do is let them go. ✌ • • • • #mandyhale #thesinglewoman #youareenough #goodenough #enough #overqualified #letgo #lettinggo #letthemgo #rejection #spirit #itsnotaboutyou #loveyourself #selflove #selfworth #boybye #thankunext #thatpart #byebyebye #byefelipe #byefelicia #iamenough #monday #mondaymotivation #happymonday #mood #mondaymood #mondayvibes

What’s your favorite affirmation? ⁣ ⁣ Drop it in the comments below, and you just might find it in a Sunday post. ⁣ ⁣ #positiveaffirmations #happiness #goodenough

When we didn’t have 'feeling our feelings' modeled for us, it can be incredibly difficult and even impossible to tap into or understand our own feelings. We might have learned to push them down if they weren’t able to be talked about or witnessed growing up. Recognizing this can bring about a lot of grief — for what we missed, for what we weren’t allowed to do, and for what we didn’t receive. Seeing things like, “feel your feelings” might be frustrating because you may be wondering, “BUT HOW?!” If this is you, you’re not alone and nothing is wrong with you. *Of course* it's hard. Some ways to begin tapping into your own feelings: - Notice your bodily sensations (tightening, tingling, tension, softness, et cetera) - Breathe into the places those sensations are happening - Get *curious* about what you are experiencing before labeling it - Pay attention to your innate reactions and responses to things - Practice avoiding judgment or criticism of what you are feeling — just notice - Validate your own emotional experiences ("it makes sense and is okay to feel this way") - Share your feelings with people who can actively listen and support you fully - Name your feelings before trying to make sense of them. Getting some personalized support around tapping into your feelings and emotional experiences (whether from a therapist, coach, bodyworker, mentor…) can be so helpful. What has supported you in connecting to your emotions and feelings? How have you been able to start identifying how you feel? Can you offer yourself grace and compassion while navigating it all? And, can you forgive yourself in moments where it’s just plain hard? Questions to ponder. Happy Wednesday, my friends. Take good care. ✨ . PS. I just another post with some alternative things to say for those who asked!

Last night, my partner said to me, “you are leaning into the amazing woman you have always been. I’m really proud of you.” I brushed it off at first, but it has been sitting with me. I was reminded that when we heal and overcome and move through and make space and grow and shift and transform, we are not becoming better; instead, we are simply returning to what we have always been. So often, we feel like we have to do more, be more, heal more, achieve more, grow more, and change more. We feel like our worth and goodness and beauty is somewhere else – like it’s something we have to move towards or find or achieve. The truth is that those things are already here. They’re already within us. We already are those things. Those things just get buried underneath our experiences and traumas and difficulties and stories and thoughts and beliefs. We don’t have to become them; we just have to uncover them and allow them to return. And, this is not easy or quick or simple; it’s often a lifelong process that ebbs and flows, shifts and flows – even when we have all the tools and tricks in the book. The beauty of letting someone else truly see and witness you (whether it's a partner or a therapist or a coach or a friend or a colleague or a family member or ____) is that they can often see beyond the limiting or self-critical beliefs you might have had about yourself. They see outside of what is in your mind. They see the full, whole you – not the you that has been created in your own narrow vantage point.  They see the parts of you that have been buried – the parts you can’t always see. They remind you what is already there when you’re not able to remember yourself. As you uncover what you may feel are new strengths, beliefs, and discoveries about your goodness and worth, I invite you to remind yourself that those aren’t new. They’ve always been there, and what a gift it is to do the work of uncovering them, bringing them out into the light, and allowing them a seat at the table again. ✨