List of the most popular hashtags for theme #LIVINGAFTERLOSS

B R E A K - U P • There is this myth that 80-90% of relationships break up after the loss of a child. As with many myths, if not all, it’s unhelpful and it unnecessarily puts stress onto a relationship already under extrem emotional pressure. • It’s not proven but often stated by health professionals therefore seemingly factual. A research on the topic has been made by the Compassionate Friends in 2006 where they found that only 10-15% of relationships spilt following a loss. Less than the average 50% of marriages who divorce. • Another study from 2010 showed an increased number of couples spilt up after a loss, but they also specifically said that it's unclear whether the separations were directly related to the loss, however. Relationship problems, parental depression, and other factors may be responsible for the pregnancy loss and the end of the relationship. • Your relationship is affected by many things, most of all by HOW you BOTH deal with the loss, pain and grief. You might like to read more about the topic in the book: Grieving Parent: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“I’m going to be honest, even now, 7 years later, every once in awhile just out of the blue I’ll start tearing up and getting misty-eyed and not really be talking about it or anything, but just thinking about specific memories or a scent or some kind of memory like that… the more time goes by, the more I feel comfortable and talk about it but to be honest I haven't really talked about it much with anybody including family members. There's an intensity about it that starts to diminish over time but for lack of a full understanding about it - some could say I haven't really dealt with it but for me I think I've dealt with it in my own way which is not dealing with it.” - Timothy @timothytimothy father loss, 7 years ago

what do you do on days like this?

There’s been a lot of conversation about Abortion and choice. I do have an opinion. Everyone does. But ( yes, but) I am writing a blog post about my own experience with Abortion and my own choice and my belief. And that will be up on Monday morning. The relation with choice and grief is that we don’t get a choice in loss! But we get choice in grief! We get a choice in how we choose to process the loss. It’s impossible! It’s sad and it’s hard. But you and only you can decide what is right for you. You have to live with you! What does that mean? Well as Meredith Grey says .. “the best way to grieve, is however the hell you want!” Season 15, Episode 6 and @shondarhimes I love you! And @ihadamiscarriage I love you for always reminding me that it’s my choice! Thank you. Because I didn’t have a choice to watch my mom die. I didn’t have a choice when my Dad died and I sure didn’t have a choice while I watched my daughter dying in the NICU. The miscarriages- no choice. The ectopic pregnancy- no choice. So you better believe, no one will direct my grief and my living After Loss! It’s me, it’s the divinity within me and the God. So lovely one, what’s your choice today?

I don't know how to say this ... but... don’t be sorry for us. ⁣Yes, our’s is a sad story but we don’t want people to feel bad for our situation. Instead, we want people to grasp life and live it. For just over 10 years Norman and I lived the life that we wanted, it was exciting, and very full. If I have any regrets, it is that we didn’t stop to enjoy things a little more. We were busy going places and doing things, we didn't stop to savour moments as much as we might. Only in the last 18 months did we learn to smell the roses. In the last 9 months, since the cancer diagnosis life took on a new value. So while ours is a sad story, we want people to know that as a couple and a family, we lived life to the fullest. But do take time to smell the flowers, breath the fresh air, and hug your loved ones. Yes, hug those little ones tight. Value every minute of every day with those who you love. ⁣Cherish them. ⁣⠀ Photo @nic_duncan_photographer⁣⠀ #loveyourfamily #simplelife #cherish ⁣⠀

G O D • I’m not religious in the traditional sense. I believe I’m quite neutral when it comes to different forms of religion. I strive to meet people from various faiths with acceptance and understanding. • I do however cringe when met with seemingly supportive statements involving God. Especially ‚God needed another angel .‘ • Don’t say this to bereaved parents, please. If they chose to say it themselves - that’s their right.

2 years ago I was at JFK waiting for my flight home, shell shocked from my dad’s sudden passing. No memory is as painful as that lonely 6 hour flight home knowing he was gone. Sitting at my gate in JFK for my flight back home on Sunday night, however, felt very different. This time I was filled with a sense of community and hope from the stories shared by grief survivors for @snapshotsoflifeafterloss ♥️ This NYC trip marked big milestones for both of the projects that we started with @lunapeakcompany this year - we hit over 100 cancer survivor participants for #projectinspirehope and completed 65 interviews and photoshoots with inspiring individuals who have endured a close, life-shifting loss. These projects have each blossomed into something really beautiful because of the vulnerability of our participants. We are blown away at how participants push themselves to do such a hard thing and share intimate experiences - all to help others in a similar situation. Thank you to our 165 participants for helping us humanize cancer and grief for each of these projects. Doing this work alongside my aunt @melodythrives has been the best experience of my life. Working on projects that hit close to home for each of us has been not only meaningful but fun. For our grief project, 65 participants means we are celebrating 65 real and honest conversations about grief and loss that typically don’t happen in day to day life. It is a privilege to bear witness to these stories. We are so happy to show that our polaroid timeline of life after loss now spans across 2 walls! #grief #griefandloss #lifeafterloss #wavesofgrief #deaddadsclub #griefjourney #dadloss #fatherlessdaughters #livingafterloss #celebratelife

Grievers, you are not alone. This is the trailer for Snapshots of Life After Loss which compiles stories of grief across time. Welcome to our @lunapeakcompany community. The years after loss range from 1 to 66 years to break down stereotypes about grief and “moving on.” These stories will show you that healing is not linear. This trailer shows just half of the participants who have joined our project - stay tuned for more videos, photos and stories of how others continue to overcome adversity in their day to day lives

2 0 W E E K S ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This was the last milestone I hit when I was told my baby stopped growing. I remember thinking that next time I'd have to wait even longer before I felt "safe" but honestly until I'm holding Baby in my arms, I'll truly never feel safe. However, the amount of relief I felt today after seeing our baby GIRL was indescribable. While I'm officially in territory I've never been before with a whole new set of anxieties, I'm so grateful to have made it this far! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #itsagirl #rainbowbaby #20weeks #bumpdate #futuregeek #pregnancyafterloss #livingafterloss #pregnancyaftermiscarriage #1in4 #expecting #angelmom #courageousmama #motherhoodrising #donotlosehope