List of the most popular hashtags for theme #NEEDY

When I hear “I don’t want to tell them what I want because then they’re giving it because they have to not because they want to” I know that’s someone who doesn’t quite know how to effectively share their needs. Like we’re so dead set on not getting our needs met we conjure up this insanely backwards “rationale” that lets us remain unfulfilled because we’re withholding our actual needs and desires. Guess what this is? Straight up childishness. It’s relating from such an unconscious place of expecting your partner to know what your need without ever having to tell them- kinda like a caregiver does with an infant. The only time it’s appropriate to expect someone to be a mind reader to your needs is BEFORE you learn complex language...so anytime before 5ish years. After that we have to start using our words to ensure our needs are properly understood and accounted for. But unless we do the brave work of fully meeting ourselves, reparenting ourselves and individuating from our family of origin (meaning we are connected in appropriate ways and not enmeshed in dysfunctional codependent family dynamics), we are very likely to subscribe to the whole “mindread my needs cause I’m not willing to learn them myself and communicate like an adult” camp of relationships. And for the record, relationships like this don’t work. They quickly become highly dysfunctional and erode away our faith in true love. The thing about partnership is we have to learn how to be an adult in love. Being an adult in love means doing the inner work to understand our personal and relational needs, claiming our desires and wants and giving our partners the high quality info they need to really win/succeed with us. Adults in love have unhooked from the addiction to drama that accompanies need mindreading fantasies. A healthy relationship is one where both are revealing their needs openly. They don’t fuck around with mindgames or holding each other hostage to their inner toddler tyrant, instead they open + reveal their needs and get on enjoying how good it feels to actually win with each other. Want support with this? 1-1 sessions are available for 2 more weeks. Apply in my biolink!

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can i say that my heart still doesn’t believe that ariana cancelled my dwt show like i totally understand ofc that she had to cancel it ! but like ugh. i would do everything to experience this show. but i’m so happy to see u at swt in 143 days!

THIS IS DEFINITELY ONE OF MY FAVORITE PERFORMANCES! YO THE "YESSSS BITCH" IS SO ME LSKSKSKSK

Close up of the Moonlight @arianagrande commission jacket I painted check my last post to see the full jacket

Hi, I need more of your attention plz #needy#attention#blueheeler#heeler#acd#cattledog#dog#cattledogsofinstagram#acdland#heelersofinstagram#blueheelers

look what i found yesterday! (swipe)

ARICHELLA IS TONIGHT AND OUR BABY IS GONNA MAKE HISTORY I'M SO EXCITED OH MY GOD. WHAT SONGS DO Y'ALL HOPE SHE'LL PERFORM? I HOPE EVERYDAY, INTO YOU AND HONEYMOON AVENUE :')))

Moonlight @arianagrande Sweetener/TUN tour hand painted jacket by me a commission for @demimathews