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What they don’t tell you about having a baby after miscarriage: how terrified you are to lose this baby too. How the weeks between each routine appointment stretch out like years. They don’t mention how your heart races as you sit in the lobby waiting for your name to be called, the dread of expecting another loss looming over you. But words can’t express the joy that you feel when you hear your baby’s heartbeat and see him/her on the screen dancing away! Every week of growing this baby is a milestone that I am proud to celebrate. #15weeks #rainbowbaby
FACT: 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage.
ALSO FACT: NOBODY talks about them.
My absolute least favorite thing to hear from others when someone is expecting is “Don’t tell anyone yet, it’s so early. You don’t want to tell people too early. There’s a lot that could still go wrong. Wait until at least the second trimester.” This is BS. If something does go wrong, scooting women into the shadows to soak in this alone is the worst advice you can ever give someone.
Not talking about miscarriages gives them more power— the elusiveness of this experience that so many women have gone and will go through only turns the volume knob up on their pain and subsequent shame.
Talking about them opens up channels for communication, processing, grieving, and collective healing.
Miscarriages do happen, and not talking about them won’t make them go away.
Miscarriages don’t happen because your body failed or because you’re not meant to be a mother. They happen to give you more chances to keep fighting and never take a single day for granted once you win.
You are a warrior, mama. You are braver than you know and a helluva lot stronger than you ever thought.
It’s time to open up.
Have you experienced negative talk from others surrounding your pregnancy experience?
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