List of the most popular hashtags for theme #ALATEEN

As recovering codependent folks, we often confuse love with self-sacrifice, responsibility, and obligation. We’ve learned that we will only get our needs met if we manipulate and control others into doing so. As such, we learn to be overly responsible for the well-being of others. Remember: the healthiest love does not demand that we sacrifice our own needs or integrity. Thanks for this important reminder, @daniachebib!⠀ ⠀ #healing #codependency #recovery #healing #codependencyrecovery #daniachebib #healthyrelationships #mentalhealth #truelove #relationshipquotes #independence #attachment #inspirationalquotes #lifecoach #coaching #recoverycoach #12step #alanon #alateen #higherpower

Get some sleep, tall child! You can't keep burning the candle at both ends! #acoamemes #alanonmemes #aamemes #sobermemes #sobrietymemes #recoverymemes #alateen #alateenmemes #narcoticsanonymous #aa #alcoholicsanonymous #alanon #alanonfamilygroups #sober #sobriety #recovery

Bringing back my most infamous post with a few edits. I’ve realized people HATE the word toxic. I hear ya’ll. Got a lot of comments on “never give up.” Decided to keep it. There are relationships, life goals, plans and situations that is OK to give up on. Not everything needs to result in completion. Sometimes it is safer to give up. We owe each other the space to discuss the options. I added a few sayings here and moved things around based on your feedback. What are some other positive sayings that you think are totally dismissive?

Awkward step 9 be like- #acoamemes #alanonmemes #aamemes #sobermemes #sobrietymemes #recoverymemes #alateen #alateenmemes #narcoticsanonymous #aa #alcoholicsanonymous #alanon #alanonfamilygroups #sober #sobriety #recovery

Avoidance is a great coping skill in the moment. It makes you feel safe. Like, “if I just pretend this isn’t here or look away for long enough it’ll go away.” We avoid when we say “I’m fine” instead of sharing or feelings. We avoid when we drink to cover up our pain. We avoid when we refuse to acknowledge that suffering is often part of being human. Avoidance leads to a short burst of bliss. We feel safe and powerful when we avoid, but the denial and avoidance just leads to more pain. It’ll show up in your mind, your body, and your behaviors. Eventually it will lead to more suffering. The key to less suffering is welcoming the pain. Are you ready to face what you’re running from?

I watched the movie Beautiful Boy yesterday (it’s a movie about a father struggling with his son’s drug addiction), and there was a scene where these words were written on the wall: I didn’t cause it I can’t control it I can’t cure it Man, I wish I would have known the truth of those words years ago (my mom was an alcoholic), but I know them now. And some of you need to hear them today. It’s not your fault. If you are the child of an addict or of an emotionally or spiritually unhealthy person, it’s not your fault. You didn’t/don’t cause it, you can’t control it, and you can’t cure it/fix it. It’s not on you. What can you do? You can get healthy. You can get help, therapy, surround yourself with wise, kind, healthy people. Pray. Pray that God would search you and lead you into healing and truth and light. Pray for the addict. Pray for freedom and truth and for God’s voice to be louder than the enemy’s. Mourn what you didn’t get from them, because it’s a very real loss. Learn how to set boundaries, not walls. Keep going. Keep believing. Surrender them, because you can’t fix them. You are responsible for you. God is with you, and He is not done with them, but only they can bend their knee to Him. #alanon #alateen #aa #thecomplicatedheart @thecomplicatedheart @alanon_wso @alateen_wso

Do you struggle with supporting people in pain? When you feel pushed to fix or give advice, some of these sayings can help. This is a page from my Caregiver’s Workbook. It has: - how to communicate with medical staff - how to respond to people who ask about the illness, deny the illness, or want updates - how to ask for help - worksheets for appointments - tons of mantras and supportive sayings - real tools that you can use right now Adding it to my stories if you want to check it out!

I’ve been ghosted by clients. I’ve upset clients. I’ve had really, really meaningful and transformative conversations with the clients that let me know when therapy wasn’t working for them, we weren’t a good fit, or they had gotten to a good place. I was really sad to see a lot of the responses about why you’ve disappeared on a therapist. Most of them started with “they made me feel...” or some variation of “I was afraid to face my feelings.” I know I’ve offended clients in the past and had absolutely no idea I did. I was so grateful for the opportunity to discuss their perceptions. Honestly, our relationships always come out stronger after this. Therapy is a place where you can test out new relational patterns. It’s supposed to be a place where you can safely practice boundary setting and expressing yourself. There are absolutely therapists out there who suck and there’s no excuse for that behavior. But, when you feel safe enough, I want to encourage you to use these moments where you want to run to... set a boundary make your needs known set limits practice getting closure on a relationship Even if you don’t end up staying with the therapist or doing therapy at all, this practice just might get you on the road towards healing.

We bombard people with disclaimers. “SAY THIS, DON’T SAY THAT!” I have written some of these. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But sitting with someone who is in crisis is hard. You won’t always be the perfect support person...and that’s ok. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ To the people struggling, this doesn’t mean you are a burden. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It doesn’t mean they don’t care. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But people mess up. They say the wrong things, especially in moments of stress. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Empathy is a finite resource. It has to be replenished. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you are a caregiver and you find yourself having trouble being compassionate, feeling angry, getting frustrated, etc., it’s time to take a step back. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s ok to say, “I love you and I know this is hard. It’s hard for me too.” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you are a person who is struggling, know that your family and friend’s reactions aren’t always about you. If someone responds in a way that upsets you or leads to you feeling like a burden, it’s ok to check in with them and share that. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sometimes you’re both doing the best you can with what you’ve got.