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Pay attention to your intuition and fetal movements so important. Thanks mama for this message!
#repost via @letterstolillian
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Nothing puts a pit in my stomach and ignites a fiery passion like the words, “fetal movement.” Bad information abounds on Dr. Google, from message boards filled with anecdotes of “babies run out of room towards the end of pregnancy,” to popular pregnancy websites perpetuating that same myth. Perhaps Lillian would still be here if I’d known that wasn’t true. In the last 2.5 years there has been a huge push for accurate information regarding fetal movements and counting kicks. I love seeing progress being made, because it means babies’ lives are being saved. But so much of it is focused on 3rd trimester movement and most providers tell parents kick counts are unreliable until 28 weeks — what about the 2nd trimester? One of the biggest reasons Gilbert is alive is that we were hyper-vigilant about his movements (the biggest is probably our MFM recognizing something was wrong and telling the OB team to deliver ASAP). He was always active starting at 8pm, and when he wasn’t, we knew something was up. His movements became less frequent over the next 2 days, and we made 2 trips to the hospital, the second of which resulted in 2 failed BPPs and an emergency c-section. There’s not much out there on fetal movement between 24-28 weeks, but @tommys_thebabycharity has some fantastic information on their website (screenshot in the last photo). Always get checked if you feel like something’s wrong. And keep going back if you need to. A brain bleed in-utero is incredibly rare, but that’s why he stopped moving and was showing signs of distress. It’s so scary to think how close we came to losing him too. Bottom line is this: know your baby’s movements, and remember that you are their best advocate.
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Milestones take on a new meaning with pregnancy after loss.
#repost via @stacey.skrysak
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I made it. Another milestone to check off the list. That’s me, excited to drink the sugary concoction as I head to the doctor for my gestational diabetes test. Yep, I’m smiling. Most people call it a disgusting drink and dread the moment of consumption. But for parents like me who delivered children prematurely, we’re thrilled to reach milestones like this one.
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A normal pregnancy is filled with so many ups and downs. You’re growing a tiny human inside of you, you’re bound to feel a range of emotions. And you have every right to complain. But when you’ve gone through a tragic loss of a child or have gone into labor far too early, pregnancy looks very different. .....
Those moments that other moms complain about are often milestones we look forward to. The gestational diabetes test means we’re nearing the third trimester, something so many of us have never experienced. The swollen ankles and back pain mean the baby is growing and we’re still pregnant. And the sleepless nights due to a giant belly is something to embrace. Many of us didn’t leave the bed for days or weeks, doctors orders when we faced pregnancy complications.
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Each woman is different and that means we each face a different experience. It’s OK to love everything about pregnancy, and it’s definitely OK to despise it. .....
Even though my journey has been bittersweet and emotional, I know how lucky I am. I never got the chance to experience a normal pregnancy before, so I’m embracing every moment this time around. Bring on the swollen feet, the exhaustion and the pregnancy pains. I’m still pregnant at close to 25 weeks, and that’s reason to celebrate and embrace the bump. #pregnancyafterloss #rainbowbaby #pregnantandperfect #micropreemie #preemie #22weeker #childloss #infantloss #25weekspregnant
Hugs mama! #repost via @mommaalia
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Today I had my tubal ligation consult with my OBGYN. A sentence I wouldn’t have ever imagined me saying in the beginning of 2018.. For as long as I can remember we’ve wanted 4 kids. But last year we had a loss at over 12 weeks. Then another at 4 weeks. And another at 6 weeks. Each time it wore me down and by the end of November I felt like I was holding on by a thread. I sat my husband down and told him I needed a break because this journey was starting to break me. Shortly after we got our healthy little girl we had been after all that year. I was so focused on this pregnancy I hadn’t thought of future ones at all when my midwife asked me if I was interested in a tubal ligation. I went home to talk to Mark about it and he supported absolutely anything I wanted to do. His exact words were, “I just want to make sure this is something you really want. You wanted to be pregnant again before we left the hospital with both girls. I know you love this, are you sure you’re done?”. And I just started sobbing.
Because I know it’s what I want but it wouldn’t be had things been different. Because recurrent pregnancy loss took so many things from me and this just felt like one more.
But I need to do this. I want to do this. Because we got so extremely, unbelievably lucky with Lexi. And I cannot fathom doing this all over again. For my emotional and mental health. For my ability to be a present wife and mother. For my own safe guarding, I need Lexi to be where we end this chapter of our lives. On a page sweeter than all the ones leading to her. It does make me sad but I’m at complete peace with this. And I can’t wait to meet the little girl who has made this whole journey worth it✨ _ _ _ _
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All the feels papa!
#Repost via @arnoldhenry
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Our family is so excited to announce that we are expecting baby #2 after 3 years of trying and never giving up hope! After the loss of our identical twins at only 10 weeks, it was extremely difficult for my wife and I to move forward. We were scared and confused. What if it happened again? What if we never got pregnant again? I remembered we shared that taboo topic with friends and had received so much support from people who had experienced a miscarriage in the past. Their stories were inspiring, uplifting and encouraging. We weren't alone in this world. We held on to that. Months passed and nothing was happening. We questioned each other. Then, our son had some questions too. Mommy, Daddy, can I get a little brother or sister? But little did he know, we have been trying and trying. Any hint of pregnancy, my wife bought another First Response Pregnancy Test. We desperately wanted another baby. At one point, we said to each other, maybe we're only suppose to have one child. January 2019, while I was on a video call with my illustrator to discuss my next children's book, my wife whispered my name. I looked. She was shaking, in tears, holding one of the many pregnancy tests. I already knew what that meant. "Are you fking serious?" I cried, squeezing her tightly before looking at the results. She was pregnant with our baby. For the past few weeks, we kept it a secret because we had to be sure this time. Today, we had our 12 week ultrasound check up and the doctor told us that our baby is looking great. We are content and excited for this new journey. October 10th 2019, we can't wait to meet our baby girl or baby boy. #dadlife #daddy #rainbowbaby #fatherhood #blackfathers #yyc #calgary
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Such a feeling!
#Repost via @infertilityrollercoaster ・・・
We’re social media official. I didn’t realize how emotional it was going to be. Before I even posted the photo I started crying. Then I posted the photo and cried again. I am so grateful everyday for this life inside of me! • I still kind of can’t believe that I’m pregnant. I don’t know if I’ll believe it until I have a healthy baby girl in my arms. My belly tells me I’m pregnant. Our doctor’s appointments tell me I’m pregnant but it’s still surreal. • I know that all mothers love their children, but I imagine that women who have gone through loss and infertility have a different level of gratitude for their babies. I know I will.
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ℛᎯℐℕℬᎾᏇЅ are magical.
#Repost via @c.squared2018
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My rainbow babies, Evelyn and James!
I had a miscarriage last January after trying to get pregnant for over a year and after surgery for endometriosis. I knew even before I got pregnant with the twins that I wanted to do a shot like this when/if I got pregnant again to honor that first baby. I never would’ve dreamed this picture would be taken with twins, and I couldn’t be happier with how it turned out. Thank you @ellabellaphotography for our amazing newborn session and for making this picture possible. It means so much to me!
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Today is Bereaved Mother’s Day.
Be kind to yourself and support each other because we are still mothers even if all of our humans aren’t here with us.
You, me, WE are a courageous mama.
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#Repost via @brynnnora
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Dear Infertile Me,
I’m writing you this letter because I’m not quite sure how to thank you! You went through years of HELL. You smiled through every baby shower and pregnancy announcement like a champ! You only cried in private until your cheeks burned. You just laughed off every time some said “You are trying too hard that’s why it won’t happen” or “Have a glass of wine” even though you wanted to scream. You went to the doctor even though it was embarrassing. You pushed through an extremely dark time. You conquered your fear of needles by having to stab yourself sometimes several times a day. You finally got pregnant! You saw your baby’s heartbeat only to be told it wouldn’t survive another week. You went through a miscarriage and a D&C . You didn’t give up. You tried again only to fail and miscarry AGAIN. You went through more testing and received crushing news of a genetic condition you never knew you had.(Balanced Translocation) You felt defeated but didn’t give up! You kept going and finally had a baby after doing IVF with PGS. Years passed and the two frozen embryos weighed on your mind. The thought of doing this process again was almost unbearable. You had a toddler and still pushed through! You became pregnant and started to plan for the future with two kids. You miscarry AGAIN! You loose all faith in this process and in yourself. You are flooded with darkness all over again. You knew you had one embryo left. One more chance at having another baby and you pushed on! You had bleeding in the beginning and thought you were miscarrying again but then went on to give birth to her at 33 weeks. The pain and anxiety of leaving her in the NICU to go home to be with Brynn and then leaving Brynn to sit with Nora was sometimes unbearable. You cried both ways to and from the hospital in the car everyday for a month. The point is you faced all your fears and your dream came true! You became a mom to two of the most beautiful little girls you could ever imagine. Your heart will never be the same! You are still haunted by the losses but continue to push through with kisses and hugs from your girls.
Love,
Brynn & Nora’s MOM
#niaw
• #internationalbereavedmothersday •
This quote is so true, nobody should have to loose their child at any stage of their life & the loss to too grand to have a name.
Remember to talk to people about their babies, help them keep their memories alive! ❤️
We love you Leo and we talk about you always .
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