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hi friends. today I want to talk about mirroring and a possible reason for why some of us feel like we are too much.
when we are little, one of the most important things our parents can do for us is to mirror our emotions. that looks exactly how it sounds, if the child is angry then the parent mirrors that anger by reflecting what the child is saying similarly to how the child is saying it.
this can look like saying in similar fashion to the child, “you are very very angry at mommy right now. did I get that right?” when the caregiver does this, the child learns a few things: they learn to get curious about their emotions, they learn self-awareness and most importantly, they learn that their emotions are safe to feel because the caregiver can contain it.
having our emotions reflected teaches us that the world can hold our emotions and therefore WE can hold our emotions.
if we do not receive this type of parenting, if the caregiver shuts down the child or punishes the child when they feel something that is “unacceptable,” the child often begins to learn that their feelings push away the people they need to survive. our emotions therefore have no place to go. we are alone in them and as children this often is too overwhelming. so as a way of coping, we internalize the message that we are too much and emotions are not safe. this is for some of us the beginnings of the worthiness wound and sense of deep inadequacy. there is something wrong with me.
now as adults, our opportunity is to reparent our inner child and to develop the capacity to be with our emotions. just because you feel like you are too much does not mean that you are. I promise. XO #worthywomenrise
My newest, biggest, probably most important goal:
To find a reason everyday to embody these exact emotions.
It used to be so easy to find pure, unadulterated joy in the seemingly most insignificant things... Why have we decided that as grown ups it needs to take so much more?
But the truth is, it doesn’t.
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We just seem to like to complicate things when we get older.
But we don’t have.
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Joy doesn’t always have to be put off or waited for.
It can be chosen.
And I choose to chose it more.
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What’s one little thing that has a way of magically filling your heart if you remember to let it?
I was messaging one of y’all last night and this was pretty much my advice.
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This is a marathon, not a sprint♀️
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It took you years to accumulate all the things in your home.
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It will take you a long time to go through it all and declutter and organize.
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Be patient with yourself
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We are doing this together!
One closet!
One cabinet!
One drawer at a time!
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Rome wasn’t built in a day
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Be a walking contradiction. .
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Be strong and soft. Be deep and lighthearted. Be beautiful and intelligent Be confident and humble.
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Be someone with a quick wit and a cheap sense of humor
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Be content climbing a mountain and enjoying the sweetness of nothing. .
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The world may try and classify you as one thing because that is far easier to understand than a person who has a little bit of everything in them. And you may feel misunderstood for a while, but just remember your people can only find you when you’re brave enough to be yourself.
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There are parts of you that you have yet to discover. There is greater love ❤️ that you have yet to find. There are experience that are far beyond your imagination. .
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And it’s all waiting for you. LIFE is waiting for you. So set aside your expectations and go explore it.
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