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Mamas - you are not alone. Every year I kick off #MMHWeek2019 with this poem I wrote for my husband in the deepest depths of darkness, during my struggle with #ppd after my #rainbowbaby Layla was born. I was still in shock over losing Joseph only the year before and the violence I endured at 16 was ever so present in my mind - as I was processing it for the first time. Right after I wrote this - I completed part III of my #memoir: Layla’s story. Jason still keeps it in a drawer in his dresser ❤️ To My Love, I see you smiling at me and know your always there. There is not a day that goes by, that you don’t love me - with the highest of care. I feel the love you give me, a love that never fails. Your love is present every day, always whispering in my ear. I couldn’t do this life without you Jason, so understand these words I say. Today, I need you more. I just need you to love me louder, louder than you ever did before. My breath is getting shorter, there are no words left to say. I know our girls need me, help me find my way. Today, the pain is stronger and my face is wet with tears. I know your arms are around me, guarding me from my fears. I know you don’t understand, how pain is all I see. Just hold me harder, love me louder. And let love find its way back to me.

Was I the only one that thought life would go on, business as usual, after becoming a mother? I thought that between nap time and bedtime, I would figure it all out. I never thought about the days when a child fights nap, or doesn’t feel well. I didn’t think about the difficulty in trying to merge two completely different lives. Better yet, I never even imagined that I would possibly have an internal battle between my “roles.” . . There are days when I want so badly to go all in on career opportunities and other days where I couldn’t imagine leaving my son for a minute. Days where I beg for a break and later rush back to be with him. Some days I feel like “I’m finally getting it” and others where I feel like a failure. Moments where I feel so alone and in the next moment feel supported. . . People will repeatedly tell you “the days are long, but the years are short.” What they won’t tell you is that some days you will grieve your old life—and that’s okay. It doesn’t take away from your gratitude or your overwhelming love for your child. It doesn’t change your thankfulness for your role as mom. It’s good to be honest with one another. Especially in an age where we can be dying on the inside and curating perfect pictures to show the world.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Destiny’s Child, but in a society that doesn’t value the “village” we do ourselves a disservice when we try and do it alone. . . Did you know that in many cultures, women are encouraged and/or required to rest postpartum. Yes—like stay in bed and only care for baby while others tend to the mother. They are celebrated for their new role as “mom” and are offered significant social support. These practices result in protection from postpartum mood and anxiety disorders. . . In the U.S—this is not the case. Women are returning to work within weeks of delivering a baby. The support is lacking and the village is no where to be found. In these instances, it is up to each of us to build the village and start as early as possible. 〰️ How can you build a village? ▪️Start early in pregnancy and join a mom support community ▪️Create a meal train ▪️Enlist the help of others for chores around the home ▪️ Have baby-holders ready to help so you can nap, bathe, do something for you ▪️Take advantage of all the free resources in your community—whether it’s a breastfeeding support group, prenatal/postpartum group (these may be offered at your local hospital) ▪️At the very least, get connected with an online community 〰️ . . What was helpful to you during pregnancy or postpartum?

Parenting is hard. Motherhood is hard. It is time to rebuild the village. . Quote Via: Forget “Having It All” How America Messed Up Motherhood—And How To Fix It by @amywestervelt . . . . . #momtruth #makingovermotherhood #parentingmotivation #parenting #wellness #nofakefriends #toughtalk #sahm #workingmoms #momlife #keepitreal #thisismotherhood #momfriends #jointhevillage #empoweringmoms #empoweringwomen #sorrynotsorry #momstruggles #momsirl #jointhevillage #selflove #thismamawines

I'm resharing this drawing for Maternal Mental Health Week because I got such a huge reaction to it the first time and had so many lovely messages from mums thanking me for doing it. I was so nervous posting it and admitting what it gets like in my head but - genuinely - after hearing from so many women that felt the same I haven't had a panic attack since the day I drew this in the middle of one. That's over 2 months ago now I think. By simply knowing I'm not the only one who has bad days where the kids annoy me and I just don't have the energy to deal with it calmly helped me immensely. It's so difficult to get talking about feelings and emotions (hence why I draw about them!) but only by speaking about these things can we normalise it and help those who need it and prepare new mums in a realistic and practical way ❤️ . Edit: Thanks for the huge response to this post! If any of you lovely new people want to view or purchase my other work it's on mamasdrawingroom.etsy.com . #mamasdrawingroom #mmhweek2019 #maternalmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealthweek #mentalload #yourenotalone #makingovermotherhood #thisisparenthood #momssupportingmoms #motherhood #momguilt #realityvsinstagram #ptsd #anxiety #panicattack #realmomlife #discoverunder3k #illustration #anxietyart #pendrawing #handdrawn #irishart #itsgoodtotalk @thebluedotprj #etsyseller #etsyireland #etsyartist

“You don’t look depressed”, “you don’t look mental”, “but you always look so put together”...how many times? There is NO look, we can’t discriminate, as mental ill health doesn’t discriminate, it affects us all, and if someone has chosen to use a hairbrush or a swipe of lippy this doesn’t mean their suffering is any less. . Today marks the start of Maternal Mental Health week 2019 and the official hashtag is #makingovermotherhood - asking us to drop the filter (online and offline) and tell our truth about the realities of parenting as well as mental illhealth. However “put together” that other mum may look, however much she appears to be coping, inside is often a very different story. Suicide is still the biggest killer of mums with under one year olds. We need to change this. Your social media feed hopefully will be awash with posts like mine and people bravely sharing their stories, my hope for the week is that by us all sharing our truths we can all reach one person struggling, one mum who thinks they are alone, one parent who believes they’ve failed, one person on the edge who collectively we can make them see YOU HAVEN’T FAILED, YOU AREN’T ALONE and IT WILL GET BETTER. . If you, or anyone you know, is struggling with their mental health - please reach out and speak to your GP or a mental health professional. To find what is available in your area check out @chasingthestigma Hub of Hope and know you aren’t alone x

M O T H E R H O O D Yesterday marked the start of Maternal Mental Health Week 2019. It hasn't been until very recently that I opened up about the true extent of my struggles with being Mummy of 2 littles. Knowing that I am loved by those around me yet at times still feeling so alone - the struggles of motherhood are very real. For me personally, I found coming out of my career to be at home with the babies difficult - trying to navigate motherhood and still feel successful but in a totally different way. And obviously now that I have two littles, Mum-guilt is always creeping in - splitting my time between Cassie and Rio, trying to be a great partner, family member and friend. Seeking help from a healthcare professional was a big step for me but one I am so glad I took. 1 in 5 Mammas will experience anxiety or depression during their pregnancy or after birth. Check in with your Mamma friends - send them some love and let them know you are there for them ❤ . . . . . . . . #maternalmentalhealth #mentalhealthmatters #pnd #anxiety #maternalmhweek #mentalhealth #motherhood #makingovermotherhood

You are doing it wrong. You are holding her too much - you aren’t holding her enough. Formula would fill her up more - breast is best. Why haven’t you left your baby with anyone yet? - oh you’ve left your baby already? Dummy - no dummy. Co sleep - cot. Work- SAHM. Sling - buggy. The list goes on. The judgment. The unwanted advice. The negativity. It needs to stop. Let’s replace it with support, understanding and love. Every motherhood journey is different. Everyone does things there own way. All of our choices should be respected. Your baby- your rules. Today is maternal mental health day. Something extremely close to my heart and something I still struggle with everyday. The statistic in the UK is 1 in 10 mothers will struggle with a maternal mental health issue but I think that is miles out. I know because for so long I didn’t tell a medical professional. I lied to them all. Why? Because I was scared. Just like so many other woman who message me every week. Because if our own family and friends don’t want to hear it, if they don’t want even try to listen then why would a doctor, midwife or HV? If you are a partner, family member or friends of someone going through it, you do not have to understand, how could you? Unless you have been through it you can’t possibly but you can listen. Please just listen. Be there and don’t judge. Don’t pretend it’s not happening, try to make excuses or play it down. Maternal mental health covers a lot more than post natal depression. Post natal anxiety, PTSD, birth trauma, OCD. If something seems off then please don’t ignore it. I know Riccardo wishes he had the information to help me. If there was more information out there more people would understand the signs and symptoms of what to look out for. If you care about a new mum in your life then please do more for her than go round to cuddle her baby. She needs you more than you know.

I feel super strange posting this photo, but it’s so important to show all sides of motherhood. This was almost three years ago. I had been a mother for nearly two years, had been breastfeeding for 21 months, and had not slept through the night regularly in 18 months. I was a stay-at-home mother (with a few babysitter hours per week to be fully transparent), had launched Tribe two months prior, and was default parent 24/7. We were traveling. Asher had spent a few hours throwing up—quick stomach bug or something. And then it hit me. I did my absolute best balancing being default parent and being nauseous, throwing up, and getting dehydrated. And then I couldn’t do it any longer. I pretty much begged to go to the hospital. How weird/sad is that...begging and excited to go to the hospital? I was so relieved when I got there. I desperately needed to get away for a few hours, have zero responsibility, and have other people care for me. I also needed to get better FAST to go back to parenting. Over the last few years, I’ve been heavily processing my motherhood/postpartum journey (through reading, conversations, and multiple therapists). What I’ve come to learn is that my struggles, my feeling depressed and anxious at times, and my unhappiness was situational/environmental and mainly stemmed from a lack of support. And still, I’m thankful my situation wasn’t worse. It very well could have been. Did you know that the leading cause of death for new mothers is suicide? Maternal Mental Health (MMH) disorders include a range of disorders including depression, anxiety, and psychosis and can occur within pregnancy or the postpartum period (together often referred to as the perinatal period). When left untreated, these disorders can cause devastating consequences for the mother, her baby, her family and society. Please speak up, get help, share your story. #makingovermotherhood #maternalmentalhealthawarenessweek #maternalmentalhealthawareness @thebluedotprj @motherhoodunderstood